I FEEL SEXY.
“I Feel Sexy”.. The 3 words that rarely escape a woman’s mouth.
Why do we find it so hard as a woman to own our power and acknowledge when we feel confident and sexy? Is it because we have been conditioned to think any woman trying to look “sexy” is gasping for men’s attention? Or maybe it’s because as women when another woman looks “sexy” we tear them down as a defence mechanism?
To really grasp the fact, we are going to have to take it right back and ask the question; What makes a woman feel sexy? Let’s be honest on most days as women our self-image takes a beating and we very rarely feel “sexy”.
Due to mainstream media we perceive “Sexy” as being hot, desired by men, liked by others and what we see on social media. This is one of the biggest misinterpretations when it comes to what feeling sexy really is.
So What Is Feeling Sexy?
Simply sexy is the feeling of “complete body freedom”.
Women want to know they are sexy inside and out, and truly believe it.
Sexy is confidence.
In The Groove, 25 women were asked what makes them feel sexy:
Someone looking straight into my eyes and really listening to what I say. –Amy Klein
“Back in high school, a guy told me I projected “an aura.” Spoken like a horny teenager, but I believed him. To this day, my aura, when I feel it, gives me a sense of power and a feeling of “Yeah, baby.
Check this out.” It starts from the inside and works its way to the surface. When everything is going right for me (hair, makeup, lacy underwear), I go out in the world and know I’m giving off that vibe. I make eye contact and flirt a little. Good things happen. I feel sexy, yes, but powerful too.” –Risa Nye
“I feel sexiest when my husband of 29 years takes my hand when we’re walking down the street. For me, being loved and loving someone after so many years together and getting older is the sexiest thing there is.” –Sharon Greenthal
“Sadly, what most makes me feel sexy is feeling thin. (Thanks, society!) I doubt that I’m alone in this. We seem to revere the thin body. But besides that, a few things that make me feel sexy are: a great lipstick, a hot bath, a massage and firemen. Firemen make me feel very sexy.” –Cathy Ladman
Recently, Glamour Magazine did a survey of approximately 300 women asking them to share their thoughts about their bodies. The survey focused primarily on body image and the types of thoughts women have when thinking about their bodies. Surprisingly, or perhaps not, 97% of the women reported having at least one “I hate my body” moment.
Everyone Can Feel Sexy.
Even more specifically, the survey found that, on average, women have at least 13 negative body thoughts daily, and that many report having upwards of 100 hateful thoughts about their bodies each day.
It has become the social normalisation for a woman to put themselves down, it’s become acceptable to hear women talk about themselves and others in such a way especially when it comes to their body and appearance.
So how do we stop this sort of behaviour and start embracing women to feel sexy again.
Stop comparing yourself to Social Media. What you see on social media 9/10 times isn’t real. With AI filters, photoshop, apps and plastic surgery being so prominent in today’s society you cannot compare your image and life to those on social media, it is a never ending battle that you are going to lose.
Retrain your brain, I encourage everyone to start listening to their inner-thoughts and retrain the way you are thinking when it comes to your own image and others.
Focus on your strengths and your own individualised version of what sexy is.
Sexy comes in all different shapes, sizes, ethnicities and genders, Sexy is in the eye of the beholder and everyone has their own version of individualised Sexy.
Issue 04 I Feel Sexy of The Business Collection Magazine is now live!
In this issue of The Business Collection magazine, we embrace and encourage feeling confident and sexy in your own body.
In our chat with cover woman, Olympia Valance, we discuss her journey to becoming an actress her discovery of a new career path on the business side of things.
Sammy Robinson discusses her iconic and beautiful fashion label, One Mile The Label, and the challenges she has had to overcome during her launch in a pandemic.
Alongside interviews and discussions with business owners, actors and CEO's, we cover all things dirty in the sheets and the journey to self-love.